What to Do When Your Confidence is Low

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I have the amazing privilege to work with women. I say privilege because being a part of an all
women team is honestly just more fun and inspiring. With that privilege I also found that there is an urge to compare. Being surrounded by women is great because it pushes me to dream bigger and aim higher for my goals, but it also taps on a part of me that says I need to be better. I may want to dress as well as another coworker, have a flourishing marriage, or simply possess the leadership skills to lead a team in an more effective, but not controlling way. This comparing and striving has only lead me to pure exhaustion and quite frankly bitterness.

We all have our days where we feel less than.  It could be an exam you just failed, a promotion at work you were skipped over for, or a boyfriend who just broke up with you. And no I am not here to just tell you that you are loved by God and send you on your way. Yes of course you are loved by God (and I mean radically, beautifully loved by God), but some days there is this disconnection between what you KNOW to be true and what you actually believe about yourself. For example, I may know I am beautiful. I know that God has made me the way I am very specifically from my super coily hair to every freckle on my face, but what do I believe about myself? Well currently that changes every day.  Luckily, we have a source to rely on that is unchanging and dependable: the living Word of God.

Thankfully God has given us a great gift to combat all those sneaky lies that fill our heads from day to day. Yes I said it. Those thoughts are lies. Lies that are not from God there to leave you defeated and discouraged. Lies with a mission to steal your joy and peace. Lies that say you are not pretty enough. Not smart enough. Skinny enough. Successful enough. Well connected enough. Simply just not enough.

The sneaky thing about negative thinking is that after thinking those thoughts for so long you begin to adopt them as truth. The only way to conquer over a lie is to replace that lie with a truth. What I have been challenging myself to do is to do debunk any lie I may have about myself with a promise or truth God says about me. This allows me to not linger on the lie, but to stop it in its track when it comes. God call us to put on our full armor.
“Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes” (Ephesians 6:11).

We can longer allow ourselves to even entertain these thoughts. They are only there to steal our time and quite frankly we don’t have time for it! So here’s my suggestion. Pull out your journal (if you’re anything like me I know you have a few to choose from!) and write any lies you may still be believing about yourself. Then spend sometime in the Word finding truths about who and what God says you are. Where to start? I would start with Ephesians, but honestly you could flip open to any book of the Bible and find beautiful promises and declarations of God. The beautiful thing about God is that he is always eager to draw near to us when we draw near to Him. (James 4:8) 

My current favorite truth is found in Psalm 139:13-15. I know this is a familiar verse to some, so I really loved how the Message version puts it. “Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out; you formed me in my mother’s womb. I thank you, High God-you’re breathtaking! Body and soul, I am marvelously made! I worship in adoration-what a creation!”.
So what verse or passage are you believing about yourself today? Let’s lift each other up and remind ourselves WHO WE REALLY ARE.

Keep shining,

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