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“Well that was unexpected.” 

That is simply the best way I can sum up the way I feel about this year. When talking with my friends and coworkers I’ve shared how wild of a ride this year has been and a lot of them shared the same sentiment. Like what the heck just happened? Nothing I had planned to do this year was accomplished and if it was accomplished it certainly was not executed the way I would have imagined it. For example, when I started this year, I had grad school nowhere on my mind. That’s wild right?!? Yet now that I’ve finished my first semester of school, I can’t imagine what my life was like before. As I conclude this year I can say that 2019 taught me many things but my favorite lesson is this:

Things may not look like what you planned or thought and that’s OKAY. 

I know, not very profound but still true. Life has a very funny way of teaching you exactly what you need right when you need it. 2019 can be best described as the loving friend who finds a way to get you into some impossible situation, but in the end it all works out. For some reason that makes me think of Tiffany Haddish’s character in Girls Trip. Fun, slightly annoying, but in the end you love her because she brings out the side of you that allows you to go with the flow.

Which brings me to my word for 2020. Yes I am that person that makes resolutions and even picks a word of the year. I believe in vision and goals, don’t @ me! This year I’ve chosen the word: PLAY.

Now for those of you who know me very well this word is pretty loaded and probably more of a challenge than I think. I chose this word because ya girl needs to loosen those shoulders, hop off of the overthinking train and learn how to give myself more moments of play. More adventure,creativity, and opportunities to laugh.

As I enter into my second semester of grad school, I am once again bracing myself for impact as I have no idea what school will bring but at least I know I’ll have fun while doing it :)


25 Ways to Survive Turning 25

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Now that I have been 25 for one entire month I feel that the time has come for me to share with you some crucial lessons I learned on the way to 25. There’s so much talk around turning 30, 40, and even 50, but what about the magical number where you’re not quite grown, but you certainly are not a child anymore. There’s no rule book on how to live gracefully in your mid-twenties, but these are a few things I learned on the way that have truly stuck with me:

1.      Your body will change. Now before you go panicking, this doesn’t necessarily mean that this is a bad thing! Your body is just changing (as do all things), but you have to be patient and kind to yourself as it does so. Remember those college days where you could pull all nighters, drink a red bull and hot Cheetos for breakfast, and still somehow to manage to pull off amazing skin and good grades? No more are the days where you can trash your body and your body not respond to it! Just remember as we get older we have to take better care of ourselves physically.
2.      Self-care is not selfish! Man oh man did I have this twisted! Coming from someone who puts everyone first before myself, I always thought self-care meant becoming self-indulgent and careless. But as the old saying goes, “You can’t pour from an empty vessel”. If you aren’t doing this now, please take time out of your day EVERYDAY to give yourself some attention and love.
3.      There’s no point in worrying over the things you can’t control. Control the things you can control and as for the things you can not control…take them as they come. Words from a dear friend of mine.
4.      Speaking of friends, you need a community of people to do life with. Yes I said NEED. I know it’s easy to think you can do it all on your own, but trust me you won’t get far trying to do life all on your own.
5.      Gratitude goes a long way. Just simply recognizing 3 things you’re thankful for a day can radically change your mood and overall level of happiness.
6.      EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY. It doesn’t look like it, it doesn’t feel like it, but it will.
7.      Not all thoughts true. Oh me oh my, I could write an entire post on this (and I just might!), but just because you thought it, doesn’t mean it’s true! Sometimes you have to boss your mind around and remind it of who’s in charge or as the Bible puts it “take captive every thought” (2 Corinthians 10:5)
8.      Meditation is so worth doing! Yes, I know it makes you sleepy and you don’t have time for it (or so you claim), but let me tell you that I haven’t found anything else that helps me to sleep better or clear my mind quicker.
9.      Comparison is a waste of time. I personally still struggle with this, but what I can say is the sooner you learn this, the less time you’ll spend living miserable and bitter.
10.   Your value does not come from your marital status. Now this one hits home for me every day so I am going to say it one more time: YOUR VALUE DOES NOT COME FROM YOUR MARITAL STAUS!!!
11.   The only way OUT is THROUGH. Enough said.
12.   Perfection is overrated. The most rewarding experiences I have had this year have come when I have let go of the idea of doing and saying the right things. Allow yourself to let your hair down a little a time and watch what happens.
13.   To piggyback off of that, there is power in VULNERABILITY. You have no idea how one’s ability to be honest and authentic can give freedom to someone else.
14.   It’s okay to change your mind. In your work. In your relationships. In your interests. It’s okay to start over, stay the course, or stop all together.
15.   Cherish your body. It does so much for you. Be thankful for everything it allows you to do. Never take your body for granted.
16.   You’re a lot stronger than you think.
17.   There is no one way to describe femininity. I loved learning this fun fact this year because for the longest time I thought becoming or feeling like a woman meant I had to have certain things like  heels on with every outfit and long hair, but there is beauty in simply being the woman you are. So if you feel feminine with a fresh face and combat boots that’s okay! 2018 has been a kickbutt year for women and I am so glad we are challenging the status quo and speaking up more!
18.   If there is something in your life you want to change, YOU have the power to change it. It’s easy to feel like life is just happening to us, but we are active participants in it! Don’t forget that.
19.   You’re beautiful just the way you are right now. Not when you lose those last few pounds or get a diamond on your finger, you’re beautiful now and always have been.
20.   Ask for help when you need it.
21.   Don’t settle. Trust me I know it’s tough, but don’t let your age make you throw in the towel on your dreams or goals.
22.   The grass is not greener on the other side. Don’t believe me? Trying have a conversation with someone whose shoes you would love to be in. There are always advantages and disadvantages in whatever season you are in so never think you got the short end of the stick.
23.   Kindness goes a long way. You never know what someone is going through so always be willing to offer a smile or a little grace.
24.   Friendships may fall apart, but new ones will comes together. This is the age where you truly start to see who you want to spend your time with and what energy you want to be around. Don’t be afraid to let some things go. Quality is always better than quantity.
25.   And LASTLY, choose joy

There you have it! The year isn’t even over and I have learned so much! Can’t wait to see what the rest of the year brings as we head into holiday season! The BEST time of the year!

Keep shining,


1 Simple Rule to Finding Peace

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This summer I have been on the search for a new place to call home. This decision was extremely important because I was deciding to become a home owner. That’s right! I was starting my journey to find a condo in Atlanta. I figured I was tired of renting and my rent was going up every year anyway, so it was time to explore other options. 

To my surprise, finding a condo in Atlanta takes a lot more work than I had anticipated! Suddenly the Zillow app became my best friend, I was calling my Mom every day in panic mode when a place I loved had a pending offer on it, and pretty soon I went from excited about finding my dream home to overwhelmed and stressed out.  I knew I had to find an affordable home and I had a short amount of time to do it. I felt completely out of control and was not too thrilled about it.

By now it’s important for you guys to know that I am a control freak. I like to have a place for everything and everything in its place. It’s certainly not my best quality, but thankfully God has been working on me hard core in this area. In the Church, you are taught to surrender to His will daily. I’m not sure if you have done any surrendering lately at work or in your relationships, but it is TOUGH WORK. Surrendering to me means accepting that you may not know the destination, but trusting that the journey will lead to the right place ultimately. The beautiful thing about God is He sees our struggle and He wants us to help us loosen our grip on the steering wheel of life.

What God has shown me through this condo search and many other experiences this year is one very important lesson. Psalm 55:22 says “Pile your troubles on God’s shoulders-He’ll never let good people topple into ruin” (Message Version). Y’all we have got to GIVE IT ALL TO GOD. No seriously, I mean ALLLLLLLLLLLL. He can take your worry, frustration, excitement, grief, loneliness, joy, ANYTHING. Trust me, He can handle it. When I feel the urge to want to control the outcome or circumstance I have to remind myself that I was never made to carry the weight of the world on my shoulders. Take some pressure of yourself and let Him have it. 

God wants to walk with us in our journey because he cares so deeply for us (1 Peter 5:7). We are always on his radar and we can go confidently to Him about anything, even the things we think are small or insignificant to Him. I love knowing that I serve a God that loves me unconditionally and is so near to us. I pray that today you slowly start to open your hands to Him and remember that He is on your side. I pray that You trust that He will guide you in the right direction and that you remember that He has NEVER forgotten about you. 

I hope this brings you encouragement today and I can’t wait to hear what God has been teaching you guys!

Keep shining,

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